"Once he started getting older and the novelty wore off I really started having a hard time. From about months 3-11 the lack of sleep really started to get to me, and the tedium of being at home…From the moment I saw him I cried and always loved him, but I just had a hard time figuring out the right balance between what he needed and what I needed. There’s never been a lack of love, it’s just figuring out how to fit him into my life and what my life looks like now."
In this episode, my guest Ana speaks out about the challenges she faced during pregnancy and delivery, and how she struggled to balance her own needs for stimulation outside the home with the demands of new motherhood. She also talks about hiring a sleep trainer, and the impact that this first year of new parenthood has had on her marriage. I'm sure this episode will resonate with a lot of you! Thanks for listening.
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Connect with Ana: http://www.anareisdorf.com/about
"It feels like my marriage is really strong now, and anything that happens to us it’s like, 'Well, we got through [the NICU], so we can get through anything else.” But it has also made our fights a lot more intense because we really love our kids, and we’re fighting about something that really matters, where as before when we were newlyweds we were fighting about who put the toilet paper on backwards."
In this episode, Elizabeth tells us about how her plans for an unmedicated birth were derailed when she developed high blood pressure and eventually HELLP syndrome, and how this impacted her fourth trimester and beyond. She shares about the stress that PPD put on her marriage, and the silver lining that came out of it.
“'Grace' to me is treating myself with a whole lot of compassion, and really sinking into that loving kind voice that we all have access to. And I focused on that the whole time I was going through the pregnancy; when things would be out of control, when I felt hormonal, when I felt crazy— I’d be high and low within a couple of hours— and that was so out not like me, and I felt so out of control of my emotions. Having to practice grace with myself was really having to walk my talk."
In this episode, my guest Megan Hale tells us about the difficult conversations she had with her husband in the lead up to growing their family, and how her traumatic birth impacted both of them and their plans for future children. She also speaks beautifully on the topic of grace, and how she kept a compassionate inner narrative, even when things weren't going how she hoped they would. Lastly, Megan explains how her and her husband were able to reconnect after the birth of their baby, and how they are prioritizing sex in this new season of life.
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Megan Hale, MA, BCC
Relationship Coach, Speaker, Podcast Host
“Go see a pelvic floor specialist! You have to give yourself time to recover, but anything lasting more than a few months, you can treat, just like you would if you sprained your ankle or something like that… You know, I just don’t have a desire to have organ prolapse later in life.”
In this episode, my guest Erin shares openly about her conception story, which took 3 years and 1 round of IVF to achieve. She also tells about seeing a pelvic floor therapist to heal a lingering birth injury.
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"I went back to work in the mindset of wanting to prove to them that I wasn’t going be that new mom who bailed on my work, and to prove that I was still super reliable... In the early days I still wanted to be that person, I didn’t want to give that up, but I also didn’t want to give up being a mom. So that was hard to reconcile, and it was hard to realize that I can’t do both things 120%, I had to find a happy medium for myself and my family…I wanted to stay in that same [work-first, above all] mindset, but over time it just sort of didn’t happen. I naturally did want to step back a little more, and not because I didn’t like my job but because I wanted to be a good mom too."
In this episode, my guest Sarah tells her story about what it was like to transition from her role as a rock star professional, available 24/7 in a high pressure career, to becoming a working mom who then had other equally important tasks grabbing at her time and mental space. She shares about what it was like to have to change her priorities around and reframe her relationship to her job, in order to be the mom that she wanted to be. She also tells us about how sleeplessness impacted her, and how she was able to build a community of other moms that she could depend on and connect with.
I hope you enjoy this awesome episode and thanks for listening!
Sarah's podcast: Working Parent Resource
Sarah's facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WorkingParentResource
Sarah's Twitter: https://twitter.com/@SarahArgenal
“I turned to writing after I had my son. For me, that helped me connect to my old life in a sense. It was almost like the demolition of a building. I was on the same land, but my whole life was different, and there was a lot of emotional shrapnel left over. I had this huge excitement about having him, and then when he came it was a lot different than I expected."
In this episode, Camaron shares her story about leaving a fast-paced career in order to become a work-at-home-mom, and how that transition impacted her identity. She also talks about keeping the spark alive in her marriage post-baby, and how her and her partner worked to prioritize sex despite co-sleeping, breast feeding, and a changing relationship with her body and self-image. Camaron tackles all these topics with positivity and humor-- I hope you enjoy the episode!
Camaron's Book: Live From Studio B
In this episode, my funny and candid guest Kris talks about her struggle to get pregnant and experiencing preterm premature rupture of membranes (Pre-PRoM) which lead to a NICU stay for her baby. She tells us about her breast feeding journey, where she was able to nurse successfully despite her baby being premature, and how breast feeding impacted her sex life, especially given that she is married to a self-professed “boob man”. She also shares how she went from being on the fence about “Mom Groups” to developing a support network of other new moms despite worrying that she wouldn’t fit into that scene.
“It’s so easy to get caught up in this game of comparison, and people telling you what you should be doing. But at the end of the day, nobody is you. Nobody is in your situation, and we just need to give ourselves grace. It’s okay to do whatever works for you. It’s about enjoying your baby and enjoying this time, and so that’s what I had to do for myself. I had to put aside what I thought was the "right thing" to do and do what was the right thing for me and my kids.”
In this episode, Sunit shares her story about experiencing unexplained infertility, having an empowered cesarean, switching to formula feeding, and managing sleep deprivation with two little babies in the house. She also shares how she worked to find the silver linings in each of her struggles and found her sense of direction and confidence as a new mom.
Sunit's Website: www.modernmommyprepschool.com
In this episode, my guest Lori opens up about having a challenging pregnancy and unexpected cesarian, the relief she felt when switching from exclusively breastfeeding to formula feeding instead, and dealing with her son's speech delay. She also describes her transition from being a new unsure mom to feeling more grounded and confident, despite pressures from the ever present “mommie wars” around her.
Lori Rochino is based in the greater Philadelphia area where she lives with her family. Her work has appeared in both local and national outlets, such as SUCCESS, Huffington Post, YFS Magazine and Examiner. She’s the author of Fifty Shades of Simple: How to Prioritize in the Age of Information Overload and host of The Simply Designed Life Podcast Series. As a Declutter Coach she helps empower women entrepreneurs overwhelmed with physical clutter in business and life by organizing them from the inside and out.
Her website is www.lorirochino.com. Follow her @LoriRochino on Twitter and Instagram.
Special Musical Shout Out: Flight of the Conchords, "Business Time"
“I read a quote the other day that really impacted me. [It said] ‘When a baby is born a mom is born’ but I think it should say ‘When a baby is born, parents are born.” It isn’t just the baby that’s born, because there’s just so much newness that happens in that season."
In this episode, first time mom Rebekah gets real about how she balanced her desire for an unmedicated birth with needed interventions, the unique pressures she felt from bringing her baby home to a studio apartment in a communal living arrangement, and how she's navigating her new role as a mom without losing touch with her husband.
Want to tell YOUR story? The New Parent Podcast still has interview slots available for the first season, so please reach out!
"In Australia, 15% of children are raised in single parent households and it's the fastest growing family unit. I've met hundreds of single mums over the last few years, and they're smart, they're beautiful people, they're intelligent, they're independent, they're financially savvy, they are taking care of their lives... and it irritates me that we're put into this [denigrated] category: "Single Mothers."
In this episode, fellow podcaster and host of Single Mother Survival Guide, Julia Hasche, tells her story about becoming a single mom when her daughter was two months old, and how that experience fueled her to create a support network for other single moms. She also shares which conversations she wishes she would have had with her partner before they became parents, and how experiencing excessive anxiety about childbirth was a waste of mental energy and something she would aim to change if she had a second child.
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Julia's Podcast: The Single Mother Survival Guide
Julia's Instagram: The Single Mother Survival Guide
"It's challenging to change your identity completely, and even though it's such a wonderful thing to welcome children into your life, you definitely have some giving up to do... not your entire self, but some aspects for sure."
In this episode, my good friend Ganka shares her experiences with her first child, Sofia. She tells about how it felt to parent a baby with an extended "witching hour" phase, how becoming a first time mom at 30 impacted her identity and relationships, and what it felt like to have postpartum depression as a new mom.
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Ganka can be reached at:
Skin Care Business: Rodan & Fields
Instagram: Life with Grumpy and Smiley
"I'm never going to be a great employee, a great mom, a great wife, a great union president, and a great dog mom... we have to stop holding ourselves to such a high standard. No one can be perfect all the time."
In this episode, Kathy shares her funny and candid story about becoming a first time parent and working mom. Enjoy this episode; it's full of pearls of wisdom.
The New Parent Podcast is a place for parents from all walks of life to share their stories from the first year of parenthood. We're not offering advice, we're offering a window into what's really going on as people transition into their roles as new parents. If you vividly remember your first year of new parenthood, and think you'd like to be featured on the show, please contact us at www.newparentpodcast.com, firstname.lastname@example.org or find our name on Instagram or Facebook. First episodes will air in early 2017.